Gambling is a progressive disease that is often driven by deep-seated emotions. It is painful, confusing, frustrating. You may feel many emotions and have many destructive thoughts, including suicide. It’s sad, but some players wrongly conclude that their families, friends, the world, would be better off without them. If you or someone you know is at or near that point, there are a few things to consider.
If you are causing someone pain, that person should be concerned about you. In a cold world that you can use all the love and kindness you can get, that is something special and precious. If someone cares about you enough to be hurt by your gambling, then they have a reason to live. Your death will not stop their pain. That thought pattern is just one indication of how confused a problem gamer can become due to gambling addiction.
To help him better understand the problem and control his feelings and thoughts, separate them. When people act purely for emotional reasons, they often do things that can cause problems later on and that could have been avoided if they had taken the time to think UFA about them. You can do this little exercise while you are alone, so answer the simple questions honestly and to the best of your ability. You are the only person who will see them, so you have nothing to lose and perhaps something to gain.
Start by writing a list of ten things that matter to you in this world or your priorities. If the game is number one, be honest, put it at the top of the list. If it’s second or third, put it there. Make a list of the people you care about, your career or your goals in life, the things you would like to do, anything you care about, but make sure it’s something you care about, not something you think you should worry about. the society. values.
Once you have your list, review it carefully and rearrange any of the items if you decide they belong in a different order.
The next step is to write a short description, it can even be just a few words, to describe your thoughts, what you think, do not feel, on that topic. For example, let’s say the third thing on your list, the third most important thing in your life, is to get a better job. For your thoughts to the side, you could write, “More money would help me take better care of the people I love, more money would give me more time to spend on gambling.” Write your thoughts on each item on the list.
Like I said, be honest. As in the example above, you may have more than one thought and it may even appear that they conflict with each other.
Next, take some time and write down your feelings about each of the thoughts you just wrote. In the example above, you said you thought it would give you more time with your family. Your feeling about it might be: “I feel guilty because even when I’m with them, I’m thinking about gambling.” Guilt is a feeling. We are separating thoughts and feelings, but also relating them to each other. So write your feelings, whatever they are, next to each thought.
You have a thinking mind and a sensitive mind, your conscious mind and your subconscious. Much of the confusion people experience in life is that their thoughts and feelings, their subconscious and conscious, can be in conflict. An example of that is: “I feel like going to the casino tonight, but I know I should spend time with my children.” One part of you feels one thing while another part thinks something that is in conflict.
In the battle between the subconscious sensitive mind and the conscious thinking mind, the subconscious usually wins, in the long run. Therefore, it is important, to control your behavior, to find a stronger emotion that makes you want to do the same things that you think you should do. Writing down your feelings and thoughts is how that process begins.
For many people with addictions, finally changing behavior often only occurs after he or she has hit rock bottom and suffered and caused so much pain that there is a strong emotional pull to correct the situation or ease the pain. While that happens to a lot of people, it doesn’t need to happen for you to change if you can start to separate thoughts and feelings and really get a good look at them.
A waterfall is a good example of how this exercise can help you better understand yourself and your problem. If you are standing directly under a waterfall, let’s say the waterfall of emotions and thoughts that bombard you every day, it is difficult to see clearly. But if you step back, out of the flow of the water or out of the thoughts and feelings, you can see the waterfall much more clearly.